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Falling in love, for many gay's and lesbians, is a walk in the park for others, however, venturing into an amorous relationship is like going to a battle especially when the affair is not without the pressure of an "INVADER". A relationship is put to the test when a third party comes into the picture, thereby tainting a rather happy frame of romance with true of disdain and and discomfort.

It is good to salvage a relationship from the brink of extinction. When reality, however, dictates that no matter how much you wade in the waters of hope, you will imminently lose your partner to the other person. When that happens, you're left with two options: swim back to the shore or drown in misery. Those who choose to sink in grief are dead by now if not bobbing up and down in the waters of uncertainties. Those who choose to coast until they reach the shore are anchored on giving hope, finding life and finding love again.

The fact that your lover managed to entertain another party in your relationship is proof enough that he or she did not love you. The art of being a good guest is to know when to leave. You just couldn't share your bed with another person apart from your partner, right?

In the department of romance, many gays and lesbians fall prey in their own emotional trap. When their lovers leave then for another partner, they almost always: blame themselves for the collapse in the relationship, you hear then say: "It's because i don't look good anymore." These are the incantations of individuals who are emotionally battered; of those who do not love themselves. Many times, they will fight tooth and nail just to win back a no win-win situation. They become destructive of themselves defeating the very essence of what being gay is all about: SURVIVAL.